To: Self - From: Self

dear self,

           the messages here are for all versions of you. past, present and future you, but present you will benefit most. the experiences you have encountered, will encounter and are currently encountering each have lessons attached to them. make learning the lessons the name of the game

           currently, life has introduced you to experiences that will require you to make self your #1 priority; to go against your natural response of putting the "needs" of others before you own. although it seems like a battle between self prioritizing vs. avoiding unhealthy selfishness, in your heart you know the quote by auntie iyanla that says "it’s self-full to be first, to be as good as possible to you. to take care of you, keep you whole and healthy. that doesn’t mean you disregard everything and everyone, but you want to come with your cup full. you know: ‘my cup runneth over.’ what comes out of the cup is for y’all. what’s in the cup is mine, but i’ve got to keep my cup full.” to be true. 

           you have the freedom to make the decisions you desire and you also have permission to make different decisions as many times as you need. eliminate the focus of fear centered around making the wrong decisions, and put more emphasis on what you do want. thoughts become things.

affirmation: I AM CAPABLE OF MOVING BEYOND MY MISTAKES. I ACCEPT THAT I DID THE BEST I COULD AT THE TIME WITH WHAT I KNEW. I LET GO OF ALL SELF-JUDGMENT AND SELF-SABOTAGE.

 

Getting to Know Me While I'm Getting to Know Me - Part 1

giving myself permission to be shamelessly authentic, transparent and what it means to be a full human being [imperfect, ever-evolving, and emotional] hasn’t been an easy or smoothly paved road. i can imagine that the fear of not being enough, aiming to fulfill expectations set by others or even seeking external validation in the first place has definitely complicated the process of self-acceptance, but luckily for me, i’m letting go of those things. for now, what does the process of self-acceptance look like for me? acknowledgment, acceptance, and shifting. acknowledging all parts of myself… what i like, what i don’t like, what my triggers are, how i feel, who i am. accepting those things simply as parts of what make me me at this particular stage in my growth and development. lastly, shifting the parts that are not serving my highest good and then, making the necessary changes.

learning about all parts of myself makes it a breeze to allow others to learn those same things. with that being said, my soul sister Andrea [@anniegeestacks] and i thought it would be a great idea to interview me for this weeks post. considering the fact that i feel like i’m always in a transitional period, or like my interests and skills are always evolving, i thought this was a great idea to start. [also because i haven’t had much interest in an “about me” page, and it only makes sense that my audience knows even the slightest bit about me outside of my writing.]

 


what are your favorite songs right now?

who are some of your favorite artists?

  • sadé
  • lauryn hill
  • SZA
  • mary j. blige
  • joyce wrice
  • kehlani

what are a few words to live by?

do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life.
— confuscious
strong women still their hands held.
— @dauvoire
my highest moment doesn’t define me, and neither does my lowest.
— @myleik

what do you eat too much of? carbs, spicy foods, and vegan chocolate chip cookies from whole foods.

what do you feel super qualified to do? to give love.

what do you want to get/be better at? listening with no intent to respond, getting & staying organized, and not holding on to as many material things.

what attributes are most important to you? authenticity, empathy, self respect.

what are you afraid to do? “initiate things.. like conversations. sometimes i’m afraid to be the first to say something or speak out when i’m uncomfortable.”

what perfume do you wear? kuumba made fragrance oil in wind dancer, princess by vera wang, and this isn't an actual perfume but i love wearing jasmine essential oil.

what candle scents would you never pick up? birthday cake and shit like that... deserts and baked goods.

current staple hair products? mango and lime jamaican black castor oil with tea tree, ecostyle gel with organ oil, and cantu's coconut oil shine and hold mist [not pictured].

what candle scents would you never pick up? birthday cake and shit like that... deserts and baked goods.

what does your ideal mate look like? taller than me, beautiful smile/teeth, well groomed, moisturized lips even in the winter, and he has an edge up... at all times. 

a store you can't stay out of? amazon.com

favorite swear word? fuck [this, that, it].

phrases you over use? "tighten up." "you got the game fucked up." and when someone is hella cute "i wanna put you on a keychain." 

favorite fruit? honey crisp apples.

how do you practice and maintain good mental health? positive affirmations, meditation, being mindful of my spiritual-mental-phyical consumption, and keeping peaceful home.

favorite bloggers/instagrammers? 

what i loved about being asked these questions by someone near to my heart is i didn’t feel any pressure to have a “right” answer. i can imagine the the answers to these questions may change over time and that’s okay. i encourage you to ask yourself the same questions with the intention of getting to know you even a little bit better. 

affirmation: I TAKE PRIDE IN WHO I AM AT EVERY STAGE OF MY LIFE. MY UNIQUENESS IS A BLESSING. I ACCEPT MYSELF DEEPLY AND COMPLETELY. I AM HAPPY BEING ME.